Why You’re Not Bad With Money (and How to Finally Feel Calm About It)

Can we get real for a second?

Most of us were never taught how to feel safe with money.

We were taught how to earn it, spend it, maybe even save it —
but not how to handle the emotions that come with it.

So when we feel stressed, guilty, or avoidant around money, we think we’re just “bad with it.”

But you’re not bad with money.
You’re human. And humans have feelings — especially about things society HIGHLY values.

A Story About Avoidance 

Years ago, before I became a financial coach, I used to have this ritual after getting home from a work trip.

The day after I got home, I’d sit at my kitchen table, open my laptop, and try to catch up on my finances. I’d open my credit card statement, stare at the numbers, feel my chest tighten, and immediately close the tab. 

Then I’d distract myself with laundry or a rewatch of Schitt’s Creek because… who wants to feel like that?

The irony? I wasn’t overspending. I wasn’t in massive debt.
But every time I looked at my money, I felt like I’d failed at being an adult.

What I didn’t realize then was that my money anxiety wasn’t about numbers — it was about safety.
I didn’t feel safe facing my own financial reality.

When I finally started looking beneath the guilt and confusion — asking why I was reacting that way — things began to shift.

The Real Reason Money Feels So Hard

Money isn’t just math. It’s meaning.

It touches everything — security, belonging, independence, even identity.

That’s why budgeting apps and spreadsheets rarely fix the deeper issue. You can’t spreadsheet your way out of shame.

We carry decades of stories about money — things we heard growing up (“money doesn’t grow on trees”), patterns we saw (“we can’t afford that”), and silent messages we absorbed (“you’re only responsible if you save”).

And those stories still drive our choices today — often without us realizing it.

3 Simple Ways to Start Feeling Calmer About Money

Here are a few ways to begin shifting from anxious to aware:

1. Name the emotion, not the failure.
When you notice stress or guilt pop up, try saying, “I’m feeling anxious about money right now,” instead of, “I’m bad with money.”
This helps separate you from the feeling — and that’s where change begins.

2. Look with curiosity, not judgment.
When you review your spending, ask “What was I needing here?” instead of “Why did I do that?”
You’ll learn more about your habits — and build self-trust and understanding of what's important to you, instead of shame.

3. Redefine what financial peace looks like.
It’s not just “no debt” or “six months of savings.” It’s waking up without that pit in your stomach about money.
It’s making choices that match your values, not your fears.

When You Reset Your Relationship With Money

When you stop fighting your money, you start partnering with it.

That’s exactly what my new course, The Mind-Money Reset, is designed to help you do.

It’s an 8-week guided experience that blends reflection, clarity, and calm systems — so you can finally feel confident and at peace with money (no matter what’s in your account today). And when you feel more confident and calm about money, you can make your financial dreams come true — finally!

Be Part of the Beta Test

Before it officially launches, I’m opening 25 beta tester spots for people who want to experience the full course with me — for free (a refundable deposit helps keep everyone committed).

As a beta tester, you’ll get:
✅ Early access to the complete 8-week course (a $497 value)
✅ All exclusive bonuses as they’re created
✅ Personal guidance and a chance to shape the final version
✅ A full refund of your $97 deposit when you complete the course and share your feedback 

If you’ve been craving a calm, grounded reset with money — not another budgeting challenge or self-improvement sprint — I’d love to have you join me.